Bloggy Wars: aka the day I got chewed out on InstaGram

     Several days ago, I posted a comment on InstaGram. In fact, it was a comment on one of Kelle Hampton's pictures of her nursing Nella. (By the way, have any of y'all read her book Bloom. I just ordered it and I can't wait to read it). I had asked a question to another commenter re:her comment saying that she was nursing 35 months and going strong.

      Even though I am not a mother, I know it is an accomplishment for however long you nurse. I asked her a question and she B-L-E-W up at me. She wrote me a paragraph about how I was offending her and Kelle etc etc etc. I was upset, not because she blew up at me unexpectedly, but that I came across sounding like I was judging her or being mean. I felt awful.

     I politely explained that I was still in high school, I've never been a mom, and I didn't mean to offend her. I never heard back a reply so I left it as that. I did get on twitter and talk to Neely (one of my fav bloggers btw) about the situation. I was so confused on top of it all. Sheesh!

      I wanted to share about what happened, not to cause more trouble or get a mean blog comment (I don't need ANY more), but to just process some of my thoughts about this said situation. 

      I know that there are thousands of blogs written by multiple people from all background. There are parenting blogs, mommy blogs, family blogs, blogs from working mommies,  business blogs, and photography blogs. Honestly, the list could go on and on and on. The blogs that I read through on a daily/weekly basis are the ones that I have something in common with, I know the person, or I just downright love reading them. 

     That being said, I really don't know why people, especially women feel the need to look down on and criticize other women? Why do we feel the need to tear each other apart with our words? Why do we leave mean comments? I don't get that. I hate getting mean comments on my blog and I only have 69 followers. I can't image how big name bloggers handle the nastiness. Honestly, if you hate someone's blog and disagree with them, either keep reading their blog and keep your opinions and thoughts to yourself, or just stop reading their blog altogether. 

    Some of the blogs I read, I know that I probably don't see eye to eye on every single thing with the writer. You might even feel the same way as I do. I know big debates on mommy blogs like working vs. stay at home mom, formula vs. breast feeding, c-section vs. not, co-sleeping vs. not, the list could honestly go on and on. I have seen SO many hurtful, mean comments from people that it makes me sick. Can't we at least try to get along?

    I know that I have developed a lovely community of friends in the blogging world and I love it! I love spending time in my day reading about y'all's life and adventures in dating, mommyhood, etc. I know it sounds shallow to say I wish we could all get along, but I really wish that we could use what our mother's taught us from the time we were little; if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all. If this doesn't work for you, I found something on Pinterest for you instead.

Happy Sunday!

Love,

Emily 

    

A lesson on: Communciation

Communication is a vital aspect of life. For me communication is important with friends, parents, siblings, etc. You get the idea. I've had alot going on lately and I've been holding it all in, hoping that somehow things will get better (this will be another post this week). Hoping that friends include me, drama stops, I will succeed, I get into college, I'll find the right friends. The list could go on. I worry with the what-if's all.the.time.

Sometimes, as I'm learning, I need to deal with the here and the now. What's really going on, in the present, and deal with it like a big girl. I need to stop letting my mind wander and end up stressing, being fearful and full of anxiety. (As I said, that will be a another post this week) I've also learned that if there is a problem, I need to deal with it and move on. Address the issue at hand, and move on. Anyway...

I do have a funny story to tell y'all tho! This greater proves my point that going straight to a friend, talking and communicating can be the best thing sometimes.

Last week, I had one of my guy friends helping me with my iPod touch; updates, apps, etc. I didn't really occur to me that I had all of my "girly" apps on there. Need I say more? So, he accessed my account and was fixing it. I didn't think anything of it. He sent me some texts last week that were something along the lines of, do you have a minute? I need to ask you something, like something important. I, being the completely clueless person I am, was like sure thing! It went something like this...

"Hey, can I ask you something Emily?"

"Sure"

"Well, umm I don't wanna u know be awkward or anything but I saw some apps"

"Ohhh okay, what's up?"

"Well, to make a long story short I saw you had some pregnancy apps on your iPod when I was updating and can I just ask you? Are you pregnant?"

(Insert: I was now at this point, dying laughing and I sent him a baahaha text back)

"My reply to said person (after much laughter): O my! Me and my friends were all being goofy and naming our future children. We downloaded a bunch of apps with baby names on there! To answer your question, I am NOT pregnant!"

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After much laughter, and sifting through confusion, He replied by saying that he would have felt awful if he wouldn't have asked me, thought I was pregnant, and just assumed rather than coming to talk with me!

The moral of this story:

1-communication is key in life

2-if you ever have a guy updating your ipod, make sure you clear all girly apps prior to said maintenance check.

3- i am not pregnant!

Happy Monday Lovelies!